Let's face it. Working full-time has its payoffs. Benefits, decent pay, vacation time, and hey. The 40+ hours per week that you're not changing diapers, wiping spit-up, or making bottles. But how can you convince yourself that working full-time benefits your family when you've become a mother? Perhaps even for the first time, like myself. Sitting in the doctor's office as I received the news that I was, in fact, pregnant (I needed a doctors pee stick to confirm my own 2 were indeed accurate) came with a rush of feelings and concerns. And one of the first concerns I had was my employment. Would there be a way that I could afford to stay at home? Or could I work part-time? Who would my son or daughter stay with if I returned to work? All of these questions flooded my mind and continued to haunt me throughout my pregnancy, and even occasionally mock me as I count down the days til I return to my full-time status in a matter of weeks. 3 weeks and 1 day to be exact.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly thankful for my job. I love what I do, I love who I work with, I have such an amazing team who supports me on every level. But my baby girl? She's got those baby blue eyes that shine so brightly I get lost in them for hours. Her smile soothes even my most grumpy of moods. When she grabs my finger with her entire hand, I forget all about the outside world and it's responsibilities. And when she sleeps, I silently stroke her head and cry a little, knowing that I won't be able to spend each waking hour with her when I clock back in for work soon. We ran the numbers and hubby and I agreed we just can't afford for me to cut my hours down to part-time, much less cut out working all together. (Who knew growing up would be so expensive?!) So, now that I've decided to stop kicking and screaming and have accepted the fact that I will be a working class mom, it's time to prepare myself with the support I will need to get me through the hardest of times approaching.
This blog will serve to be a system of support for any mothers out there that have to wake up each morning and kiss their children goodbye as they rush out the door to tend to the outside world and all that it brings. (Special shout out to those in retail-lucky us!!) Here's to those mothers that feel the pang of guilt as their child reaches for them while being handed to caregiver. Here's to those mothers who have to swallow their words when they hear Stay-At-Home-Moms complaining about needing space from their everyday life and the kids and the cooking and the cleaning. (I love my SAHM friends btw!) I want to encourage you Working-class moms out there, that it is OK to work full-time. You're providing for your children that you drop off at 5 am and pick up at 6:30 pm. You're teaching your child responsibility, hard work, the value of the dollar, so many things! And not that a SAHM doesn't teach this and more, the working mom teaches this silently. Throughout 8 grueling hours, 5 days a week. The working mom must demonstrate an attitude of commitment, strength and pride as she punches in for the day and spends her lunch hour wishing it was full of SAHM duties, instead of crunching numbers or designing closets for those SAHM's.
As a Christian woman, I've had to really look up to God and say each day, "Lord I trust in You. I trust that Your plan far exceeds mine and that I have been called to serve you as a full-time employee AND a full-time mom." Ephesians 3:20-21 says "Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." I cling to this verse each time I pray for a way to stay at home with my baby girl. I am also reminded though, that the Lord will give me the strength I need and the power to overcome my own selfish ambitions and emotions that beckon me to sulk in my sorrows rather than count my blessings. After all, there are plenty of people out there BEGGING for work. How could I be anything but thankful? You see, the Lord is my employer. I work for HIM. I may clock in and out, I may receive a paycheck that states my earnings and what I contribute to the government, but ultimately, its God who signs my paycheck. And I'm not giving my two-week notice. I'm not cutting down my hours. Because I've been called to submit 40 hours a week to opportunities to show Christ's love to a world in need of closets, kitchenware, storage needs, etc. (Can anyone guess where I work??) I have been asked by God to devote my time away from home, immersing myself in society and reach a whole set of people I would never encounter as a SAHM.
So once I realized that it's in fact Christ who signs my paycheck, I can accept the position that lies ahead. It will be tough. It will bring tears. It will tear at my heart strings. But it will bless others. And myself. One very obvious blessing is the joy it will bring my mom, my mother-in-law and my grandma who have all signed up to provide daycare for my daughter! This is 40 hours a week that my daughter will spend building relationships with a family that very much loves her. She will learn all sorts of life lessons and from many different perspectives! Talk about something I couldn't give her all by myself! What a BLESSING! Reflect on the blessings. Those little things that can easily be forgotten in the workplace. Remember it is no longer about you, but what is best for your child(ren). And they will be OK! Working-class moms...YOU'VE GOT THIS!
Romans 8:18 "I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us."
For additonal perspective and support, please visit the following links:
http://www.parents.com/parenting/work/life-balance/moms-balance-work-family/
http://thehumbledhomemaker.com/2012/11/being-a-working-mom-when-you-really-want-to-stay-at-home.html
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